One reason
for lack of peace of mind is your past.Your past has
mistakes and blunders.Your mind
reminds you of the past.You think
about how different life would have been if a different choice was made in the
past.You mull
over the missed opportunities.You regret
your past and wish there was a way to undo it or there was a time machine to rewind
time.You realise
that there is no way to change your past.
This
realisation is painful and you feel sad.
Is there a
way out?
Life happens
in the present and you miss life if you are in the past or future.
What can be
done to overcome regret and come to terms with the past?
1] Acknowledge: However painful it may be, don’t avoid
thinking about what is causing you pain. Identify exactly what is causing you
pain. It is okay to feel low or shed some tears.
2] Analyse: Analyse what was the mistake. Was it
your mistake or was the situation beyond your control?
If it was your mistake
Society
wants you to be perfect.
Teachers
want you to be perfect.
Your family
wants you to be perfect.
You want to
be perfect.
But the
reality is that you cannot be perfect.
You are
human.
You will make
mistakes and blunders.
It is okay
to make mistakes and blunders.
You should
learn from them.
Vow not to
repeat the mistake again.
Shift your
focus from sadness to learning.
It will make
you feel better.
If situation was beyond your control
Maturity is
realising that everything in life does not match your expectations.
You have
freedom to set a goal.
You have
freedom to work for it.
But at times
you cannot control the result.
You do not
have full control over your situation.
That is the
reality whether you like it or not.
3] Follow the Serenity prayer: